Sometimes it’s hard to know what clients want from me. Actually, it’s not hard to know what they want – it’s just sometimes absolutely impossible to give it to them. I think they want a magic wand. They want to feel better so desperately that they want me to be able to sprinkle some pixieContinue reading “Scaffolding and self construction”
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Gratitude.
Last night something happened that has prompted me to feel real gratitude for my husband, our relationship, and the support he offers to both me and our children. In our daily lives its easy to overlook all of the things we love and appreciate about our spouses and focus in on the things they doContinue reading “Gratitude.”
Parenting therapy
Clients often seem worried that I will judge them for the things they say in session. I have a resting disgruntled face so I have to remain conscious of my expression during session to avoid giving them any inadvertent evidence that this is true. The reality is that I’m very rarely judging, mostly I’m reacting.Continue reading “Parenting therapy”
Truth and reality
Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth. Thoreau I’ve always kind of found Thoreau to be self-indulgent and whiny. Never my favorite philosopher, I kind of enjoy to run him down for his adventures in Walden – which was hardly the rough and rustic experience he presented. That said, I’ve been thinkingContinue reading “Truth and reality”
Loving kindness to myself
I think nearly every day about shame. As a therapist, I see it in so many of my clients – people living with, and consumed by, shame. Often I have clients who are emotional eaters come to see me, completely preoccupied with negative thoughts about themselves and their bodies. They resist and refuse to releaseContinue reading “Loving kindness to myself”
Personal Best & Worst Disney World Attractions
I was listening to a podcast today on my run about the best and worst of Walt Disney World. They were personal favorites of the hosts and it started me thinking about my own personal best and worst list. So much of what I love about the happiest place on earth is determined by theContinue reading “Personal Best & Worst Disney World Attractions”
Post traumatic stressful memories
It’s funny the things we hold onto from various experiences. There are things I said in middle school that rise to the surface of my consciousness from time to time and still have the power to make me cringe. Conversations I had that could have gone better. Things I thought I needed that were detrimentalContinue reading “Post traumatic stressful memories”
Vacation planning
I’m getting to that point where I’m starting to jones a bit for a trip to Disney World. We don’t have our next trip planned and it feels weird not to have something working. It’s a pretty expensive hobby. Planning trips to Disney World is a sort of shared psychosis in my husband’s family thatContinue reading “Vacation planning”
Life’s value
As I age I have become quite afraid of flying. It isn’t a fear of death, which has become less and less terrifying as a concept as I grow up, but rather a fear of what I might do as the plane was crashing. Would I be the one shoving children out of myContinue reading “Life’s value”
Vulnerability and self-disclosure
I’ve been writing parent questionnaire responses for Number 71’s middle school applications. It’s actually my favorite part of the process – getting to sit down and really think about how to encapsulate a person I love so well in a way that allows others to love her too. It’s a lot like writing a celebrityContinue reading “Vulnerability and self-disclosure”
Running for Disney 